Jun 132013
 

Well… I guess they could, but it is really rare. Sometimes women come to us as doulas and begin to detail their dream birth. They tell you how they want it to unfold. And then we ask them what they are doing to make that happen. They often pause and then say, well we are hiring a doula!

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Hmmm… doulas are great. I can say that because after all I am one! I think we offer wonderful services to support moms and families. BUT, we are not GOD. We can not make your birth magical an unfold just as you dream. Recently I talked to a young doula who had already begun to burn herself out. She had felt disappointed that she had not had more of an impact on the few births she had attended. But as we began to chat, I realized she was beginning to take responsibility for the woman’s birth rather than helping the mom to take responsibility for her birth. Doulas can certainly help the outcome of births be improved but she is only one part of the equation. At times we may be told what we did was magical- but we do not perform magic per se!

When my oldest daughter had three beautiful births that were neither long or complicated, many of her friends told her how lucky she was. They did not realize she was well read, taken fabulous childbirth preparation classes, taken prenatal yoga, ate healthy, exercised and had really prepared her mind and body for her birth. Hmmm… her birth may have been magical because of all of those things.

And I have been with women who did everything within their power to prepare for their births and still ended up with a difficult or complicated birth experience. Why does that happen? It really is unfair! Those are the births where as a doula we really do wish we had a magic wand! But we have to remember there are two people in labor during a birth… the mom and the baby. Sometimes there are things we can not prepare for and have no knowledge about until the aftermath that the baby knows, but we don’t.

But remember when you hire a doula, you need to also do many other things to prepare to make that magical birth more likely. And let me remind the doulas who read this blog, it is the mom’s birth- not yours- you can be responsible to support her, encourage her, share the things you have learned in your training and experience within your scope of practice and love her- not give her a magical birth. We must give the responsibility for the birth back to the mom and baby… and the unknown who is all knowing!

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Jun 122013
 

For busy families, a family vacation is the perfect way to get away from it all and reconnect. As a travel expert, I once believed that I knew everything about how to travel, from selecting the best flights to packing lightly. However, once I became a full-time mom, I realized how much there was to learn about keeping a baby happy while traveling. Because traveling with your baby at an early age is the best way to get them accustomed to being away from home, it is important to know the right tricks for keeping your baby content so that everyone will be comfortable. Here, are the essential tips that every parent should know for making a family trip as enjoyable and hassle-free as possible.

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Carry Waterproof Bags

As every parent knows, accidents happen. In fact, accidents are especially likely to occur when traveling on an airplane, car or train. This is because the jostling motion of the vehicle can contribute to spills. Waiting in long lines and other inconveniences can also lead to leaky diapers and other soiled clothing. Keeping plastic bags handy will give you a sanitary way to stash your dirty clothes until you can get them laundered.  As an added bonus, you will have a great way to separate sandy or wet bathing suits.  This will eliminate the need to wash all of your clothes upon arriving home.

Schedule Flights for Nap Time

When possible, choose a flight schedule that will be during the bulk of your baby’s sleeping time. In fact, many nighttime or early morning flights can also score you a better deal on your tickets. If it’s not possible to travel at night, plan your trip for your baby’s naptime. This may seem counter-intuitive, but try keeping your baby up before your flight.  This will ensure they are sleepy before takeoff. Whether you prefer to travel at night or in the middle of the day, you will be able to relax better with your baby asleep in your arms.

Feed Your Baby During Takeoff and Landing

A screaming baby is a parent’s worst nightmare on a crowded plane; however, the majority of crying babies are responding to pain caused by pressure in their ears. This situation can be avoided through this simple trick: feed your baby during takeoff and landing. This helps to equalize the pressure while also calming your baby down. If you are lucky, then your baby might also fall asleep during their feeding. Often, the combination of the airplane’s movement along with a full tummy is enough to lull a baby right to sleep.

Pick Child Friendly Accommodations

Deciding where to stay is crucial when you’re traveling with an infant.  If you’re a brand new mom, you wont have to worry about kid-friendly entertainment however there is a list of amenities that you will want to consider.  Make sure your hotel room has a fridge to store bottles or baby food.  If your child has just started to crawl, try looking into hotels that offer certified baby-proofed rooms.  If your destination is tropical, look into resorts with a wading pool.  Your hotel room will be the place you’re able to relax and regroup, so make sure you do your research to find the one that meets all your needs.  Think you can’t find this on a budget?  Think again.  Use the Internet to read reviews and identify a few places that will be ideal for your family.  Then start looking for discounted days or coupon codes.  My family was able to secure a great resort on our trip to Hawaii that had entertainment for every member of our troop.  By not compromising, we were able to find an excellent kid-friendly hotel in Honolulu that still wowed the adults.

Pack Essentials in a Diaper Bag

When traveling, fast access to your baby’s necessities will help you meet their needs before they ever need to emit a scream. Although a diaper bag may seem like an obvious addition to your trip, the key is making every item accessible and well organized.  Therefore, make sure to keep bottles, sippy cups, diapers and food available in a well-organized diaper bag. For babies who are old enough to entertain themselves, pack a few new toys that will keep them intrigued until you arrive at your destination. You don’t want to have to be riffling through a messy bag while going through security with a crying little one.  By making sure that your baby is fed, changed and entertained, you will be able to enjoy a seamless trip that will lead to many wonderful memories.

Kendra Thornton

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Bio: Kendra Thornton: Travel advocate, TV spokesperson, PR businesswoman, proud wife and mama of 3. I am a long time travel expert who has been packing my bags and traveling the world since I was 3 months old! I’ve found my utmost desire in life is right here in my own home. I have taken my excitement for travel and brought it to you with some of my favorite travel tips and tricks. Enjoy!

 

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Jun 022013
 

I have known Brenda Parrish for a couple of decades. We met online and did not meet in real life until a year or so ago at a breastfeeding rally. She had just recently moved from south Georgia to the metro area. She is a fabulous home birth certified professional midwife. I in fact am awaiting a birth with her to happen soon. Here is her protocol for women to kill the GBS bacteria that sometimes lives within us- in fact some say 40% of women have it at any given time. It is not dangerous unless you are giving birth when it is present. If the baby picks it up once your water breaks, it can be fatal to the newborn. Ironically the only baby I have ever been the doula for who went to the NICU with GBS+ status was a mom who had tested negative! But here is her wonderful protocol that has proven to be very effective in her home birth moms!

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Sometimes being forced to think “out of the box” leads to accidental discoveries that end up being quite important.  Such has always been the case of midwives who are open to alternative remedies, especially when the medical alternatives tend to have unwanted side effects.

GBS (group beta strep) is the most common cause of sepsis and meningitis in newborns and can cause newborn pneumonia.  Many people carry GBS in their bodies but do not become ill.  Because it can be present and not cause problems, many women are colonized and do not know it.  A baby can become colonized if the mothers is colonized in the rectum or vagina at birth.  This normally happens during labor or birth.  The standard of care is for mothers who test positive to GBS to receive intravenous antibiotics every 4 hours during labor to help prevent the baby from becoming sick.

Many CPMs (Certified Professional Midwives) do not have access to the recommended intravenous antibiotics to treat GBS.  So we have always looked for alternative ways to reduce the colonization in expectant mothers who have tested positive.  For many years, I have encouraged women to insert a peeled clove of garlic vaginally at bedtime-either one week on and one week off or every other evening  until delivery.  We followup with the use of Hibiclens disinfectant solution to rinse the outmost vaginal canal and perineum during labor.  While this has actually served me well for many years, I’m sure it is not the most pleasant experience for the mothers.

Several years ago, a study was presented at a MANA (Midwives Alliance of North America) Conference detailing the use of a specific probiotic to actually keep GBS bacteria in check or significantly reduce the colonization, thus increasing the number of mothers who would test negative.  The product was FemDophilus and it contained a strain of good bacteria called L. Rhamnosus.  This made such good sense to me.  If we could help moms to simply naturally control GBS colonization without the use of antibiotics, it was a win-win situation, because even though the antibiotic normally works pretty well, it is not without side effects for both mother and baby.  If we could do something that had only GOOD side effects, how much better would that be?

I looked around for this product and didn’t find it right away but after reading a few labels, I realized Jarrow made yet another formula called “Jarro-Dophilus EPS” which was readily available locally and also had a significant amount of the desired L. Rhamnosus.  So, a little over two years ago I began to strongly recommend that all the clients in my care take this probiotic formula daily as a preventative to GBS.

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In that period of time, until recently, I had not had a SINGLE mother test positive.  Recently I had one mother who was positive with her first pregnancy test positive again.  I have not questioned her yet as to how closely she followed the protocol.  Another mom was in her fourth pregnancy and had never tested positive before so she did not take the probiotic on a regular basis.  The third was an expectant mom who transferred to my care one week before we ran the GBS lab and had earlier tested positive in a urine culture so she is very highly colonized and one week was not a sufficient amount of time to make much difference to her digestive tract.  So, that’s a pretty good track record.

My protocol is this:

New client in the first trimester-no previous GBS history and no UTIs–just take one of the EPS formula probiotic a day.

New client in the first trimester-previous positive GBS or a positive urine culture–take three probiotics a day for a week, then 2 a day for a week, then one for the balance of pregnancy.

Late transfer-3 probiotic a day for a week, 2 a day for a week, then 1 a day for the balance of pregnancy.

Once I question the mom who tested positive recently that had a previous positive GBS in her other pregnancy, I may tweak that protocol in the future to stay on three a day for a longer period of time.

But so far, this probiotic is having very good success. Nice side effect is several moms have mentioned that is also seems to be helping them with regularity.

 

 

Brenda Parrish, CPM, CLC is a homebirth midwife who currently lives in Marietta and serves metro-Atlanta area mothers in their quest for a natural birth.  Originally from south Georgia, she served women there for many years before relocating her practice.  Her first primary “catch” was the late in life “surprise” baby born to her former preceptor, 18 years ago.  Many babies later, she is still enjoying her midwifery career.  She is a mother to three grown children and “Nana” to seven delightful grandchildren.  She loves music and singing (used to work in a recording studio and in a traveling music group), photography and scrapbooking, crafts, sewing and good food.

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May 312013
 

It is amazing how much women will learn from their first birth. Often they will work hard to make that birth not be repeated. This mom did that very thing!

 

In preparation for the birth of our second baby I attended a weekend class titled, “Fear to Freedom” {now called BOLD}. Eight other pregnant women attended.  We bonded as we talked about labor, fears, strengths, and visions for our upcoming births.  We also meditated; role played, and wrote birth mantras.  My mantra for this baby’s birth was:

 

I will work hard.

I will listen to my body and feel what it is telling me.

I will embrace the moment and the journey of the birth of my baby.

I own my birth.

          In addition to the “Fear to Freedom” class, Stan and I took a class on breast-feeding and sought out a doula and midwife practice that would be conducive to a normal labor and birth. Teresa led the weekend workshop and the breastfeeding class that we took. She helped me feel supported and empowered to make the birth and breastfeeding experience I envisioned a reality.  We found Intown Midwifery in Atlanta, a practice that prides themselves on treating women and birth with respect and helping them through the process.  After interviewing several doulas, we decided to hire Colleen.  She would be a gentle, guiding force throughout the preparation, labor, and birth of our baby.

The birth I envisioned was intervention free and done on my terms. Our first baby was born after several interventions including Pitocin, a doctor breaking my water, an epidural, and several long uncomfortable hours unable to eat or drink in the hospital.  That was not going to happen to my baby and me again!  It was important to me to be alert and aware to breast-feed my baby from the moment s/he was born.  I did not want this baby taken away from me for any reason at all.

Saturday morning, 11/17/2012, we went for a family walk along the Chattahoochee River, my favorite place to walk or run. Later that afternoon the very early stages of labor started while Stan and I were at the movie theater seeing Lincoln.  Lucky was at his best friend Presley’s house.  I got up every 30-40 minutes during the movie to go to the restroom.  I felt restless. I felt like something may be happening.  I was in a good mood. After the movie and a nice dinner at Marlow’s Tavern, we went to pick Lucky up. As we were leaving Presley’s house with Lucky he said, “See you tomorrow!”  Cary, Dawn, Stan and I all laughed about how funny it would be if we had to bring Lucky back to their house the next day, if I was in labor.

That evening I started to have very light contractions.  They felt like light period cramps wrapping from my back around my hips. That night I went to bed and woke up around midnight to Frankie, our dog, whimpering to go out. I prodded Stan to get up and let her out but he was too out of it (Stan is a deep sleeper).  Frustrated, I got out of bed and let her out. I went to the restroom and saw a welcome sign, my mucus plug started to come out. This was exciting and I continued to have light contractions. I texted Colleen, the doula that was going to help us with the labor and birth of this baby. I also understood that even though my mucous plug came out, it could still be several days before the baby would be born. I took a shower around midnight and laid on the couch to try and get some sleep.

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May 302013
 

Before my due date of Saturday, October 27, 2007, I tried several techniques to induce labor. I seriously questioned this decision after I actually went into labor. It was crazy to try to hurry things up. I tried eating a lot of pineapple, walking, sex, mixing two tablespoons of brown sugar with warm water to drink, and even going to an Italian restaurant whose menu boasts an eggplant Parmesan that has sent thousands of women into labor within 48 hours. I ate the entire dish and ended up feeling even bigger than I was, but still pregnant.

On the night of Wednesday, October 24th I woke up in the middle of the night feeling what I thought might be a small contraction. I was so excited and nervous that I couldn’t sleep anymore. I laid on the couch all night so I would not disturb Stan, assessing every little movement inside my body.

The following morning I noticed that my underwear were consistently damp. I wondered if my water would break soon. We had a doctor’s appointment at 3:30. Since I did not get any sleep the night before, I was exhausted and emotional. Stan got off work early and picked me up for the appointment.

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