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My due date was Tuesday, May8th.  I went to my appointment. I hadn’t been getting “checked”, as I just wanted whatever to happen, to happen.  I began taking primrose oil as that’s about all the “intervening” that I was doing.  Janet, my midwife, thought that I wouldn’t go too past my due date, but I didn’t care because I mentally prepared myself to go 42 weeks. So in the days to come, I would continue walking, curb walking, and having maritals.

On Thursday, May 10th at 5am, I awoke to feeling “weird,” almost like I was about to come on my cycle but needing to have a bowel movement.  So I went to the restroom, had a bowel movement and came back to bed.  But for some reason, I needed to go again about 10 minutes later.  So I went again, this time having a bloody show with mucus.  This is it! I am in “early” labor, so I thought!  Well, I went back to bed, and didn’t bother to tell Keith since this is the beginning.  Well Keith woke up about 5 minutes later and asked if I was ok.  Yes, why?  He said I was squeezing his leg.  Well apparently I am having contractions!  I had to go back to the restroom, as it just felt great to sit on the toilet. Keith got up to “monitor” me.  I felt like I was having waves of menstrual cramps.  I was thinking this is early and it’s going to get more intense, so embrace it and hang on to my hat.

Keith said ok let’s time them for his sake, as I’m on the toilet I was contracting.  They were every 3 minutes lasting 30 seconds!  My mind took me to thinking; nope they need to be around 5 minutes lasting an hour.  I proceeded to get in the shower at this time around 6am.  I had to been there at least 30 minutes, as it felt great!  Keith was getting dressed, and he continued to time my contractions.  They got stronger, but not strong enough for me to want to react.  Well once I got out the shower, I wanted back in!  I had 2 intense contractions that made me grab Keith as he grounded me to “breathe” and I yodeled through the contractions.  I wanted to get back on the toilet, as I kept feeling bottom pressure.

I then decided to call my midwife.  I put on my clothes to prepare to go to the hospital.  Keith packed up the car.  The midwife calls back at 7am and listens to me contract or yodel if you will, and tells me to come in.   For some reason I had it in my head that it’s going to get worse, and my contractions are not lasting a minute, they are not 511 or even 411!  They are like 3-30seconds!  Well we got in the truck, and uh oh!  That dang on car seat is in the way!  Teresa told us not to put it in!  Well, I couldn’t sit down in the seat, I had to ride with my knees on the seat with me facing backwards and my head on the headrest, as I kept yodeling and feeling bottom pressure.  It’s 7am on Thursday am, we will not be able to go the regular route (I-285 to 400) to North Fulton.  We are taking the back way, to ensure we won’t get stuck in too much traffic; however, it will be a lot of lights.  I told Keith to do the best he could.  He decided to drive 100 miles an hr instead!

However, during the trip, I had one intense contraction with that continuous bottom pressure, afterwards, I got in a zone.  I didn’t yodel, I just mentally endured and breathe through them.  Keith kept asking if I was ok.  I thought maybe the contractions were subsiding or if I was really in the zone and not “feeling” them as intense as they were.  We got to the hospital an hour later.  (at about 8:20am at this time) As soon as Keith pulled up to labor and delivery they had a wheelchair ready.  I didn’t want to sit, so I proceeded to place my knees on the chair and I rolled into delivery backwards! I changed into my hospital gown, as I realized I didn’t have my sugary drink!  Oh well!  I had an intense contraction in the middle of the wardrobe change.

Kim Storrey (midwife) on call reminded me that I needed to be monitored before filling the tub.  I just said, I know but go ahead and fill it up.  Mind you, I tested positive for Strep B, and needed to get the antibiotics as well.  Well don’t you know she checked me and I was 8 cm!  Kim was like when did you start contracting?!   It just started at 5am!  Well, with that being said, about 3 minutes later my water broke!  And what do you know there is meconium in my water!  Oh well.  I didn’t care, because we were prepared to embrace what happened and was taught beforehand that your birth plan is only a plan!  At the point of my water breaking, I was fully dilated!  They brought over a mirror and his head was crowning!  I was ready to push, because I’ve been feeling the urge!   It only took 3 pushes! From the time I came into the hospital until delivery, it happened all in 12 minutes!  Everyone was like, you’re a first time mom?!!!   This is every laboring mom, and midwife’s dream!  Well, we didn’t get any antibiotics for Strep B, I didn’t have my water birth, but it was the most exasperating experience ever!

Kendall and I both checked out fine/healthy.  They didn’t even have me fully admitted yet, as everything happened so fast! So, we had our birthing ball, rice sock, focus wall, snack bag, my “Bozo” (lol), and it didn’t even make it out the car!  Lol! However, my natural birth experience was awesome!  Thank you for being an awesome preparation coach! (Teresa taught them private classes)

 

Best,

Deketa

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Back in the day…. before the coined phrase Attachment Parenting was even noted, I practiced attachment parenting. What did that look like?

I nursed my babies as they desired for as long as they desired and allowed them to share our bed at night. We loved it! It was easy and having three babies in four years, it helped us all get more sleep!

When my grandkids come over for the night, they have always been welcomed in our bed. We love having little ones snuggled in next to us at night.

I wore my babies. I loved wearing my first but after that it became a necessity to wear  the baby as you may have noticed- I had three babies in four years. I had one walking, one in the stroller and one in the sling. It was the way I could go out and get things done- and I loved it!

One of the thing I miss the most about not having a new grandbaby is not being able to wear that baby when I go out with my daughters. When they get to be big toddlers, since it is not done on a regular basis enough to help my body prepare for it, I can not wear the big toddlers. But I love being at the mall or the park wearing my grand babies!

I taught my children to be peaceful with others… no hitting or biting but using your words instead. I would love to say I never resorted to spanking my kids- but I did rarely. I hated doing it and feel I fell into my old childhood pattern that my parents left me an example of on occasion. But gentle guidance does not mean no discipline. I disciplined my children and they understood what “unacceptable behavior” was without being told they were bad. Continue reading »

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Did you know that each state government sets up the regulations for that state’s birth centers? If you do not like something a birth center can or cannot offer, take it up with the state with whom they are regulated. Every state is different. Let’s see what the State of Georgia has to say about the regulation of our soon to be Atlanta Birth Center. So realizing that these regulations are what dictates certain things at the birth center and not the actual birth center deciding these things will help us in knowing what needs changing- the law of the state. Now special certificates and considerations can be submitted to the state to change the regulations- and I am sure that the Atlanta Birth Center will do all they can do to include as many women as possible. But I wanted to share what the law states now in Georgia. Here is the link- I have only commented on a few of the regulations:

http://rules.sos.state.ga.us/cgi-bin/page.cgi?g=DEPARTMENT_OF_HUMAN_SERVICES%2FPUBLIC_HEALTH%2FBIRTH_CENTERS%2Findex.html&d=1

290-5-41-.01 Definitions.

It must have an administrator:   ”Administrator” means the individual who is responsible for the day to day management of the center.

It is not a hospital:   ”Birth Center”, “Birthing Center” or “Center” means a facility, other than the laboring woman’s legal residence, which admits persons for the purpose of childbearing and which facility has not been classified and licensed by the Department as a hospital.

It has birth rooms:   ”Birth Room” means any room within a center which is provided as an area where births take place.

And it has to have CNMs not lay midwives or CPM- certified professional midwives but actual nurse midwives that are registered and licensed by the state and ACNM:   ”Certified Nurse Midwife” means an individual who is a Registered Nurse currently licensed in the State of Georgia and who is also certified by the American College of Nurse Midwives.

They cannot offer anything other than local anesthesia- so no epidurals or general anesthetic can be used:    ”Local Anesthesia” means any drug which, when administered, provides localized temporary loss of sensation, but not accompanied by a state of unconsciousness.

And you must be a low risk patient. So the state then goes on to state what a low risk patient actually is:   ”Low Risk Patient” means an individual who:

  1. is in general good health with uncomplicated prenatal course;
  2.  is participating in an ongoing prenatal care and education program;
  3. has no major medical problems;
  4. has no significant signs or symptoms of hypertension, toxemia, hydramnios, abruptio placenta, chorioamnionitis, malformed fetus, multiple gestation, intrauterine growth  retardation, fetal meconium, fetal distress, alcoholism, or drug addiction, Rh or other blood group antigen sensitization;
  5.  has no history of fetal wastage or premature delivery;
  6.  has no previous significant obstetrical complications likely to recur, nor previous
  7. uterine wall surgery or Cesarean section; (you read that right- no VBACs can be done here)
  8.  has parity under six unless a justification for a variation is documented by clinical staff;
  9.  is not a nullipara of greater than thirty six years of age; (That means if it is your first baby you have to be 36 years old or younger!)
  10.  is not less than sixteen years of age at onset of pregnancy;
  11.  is appropriate for a setting where anesthesia is limited to local infiltration of the perineum, or a pudendal block, and analgesia is limited;
  12.  while in active labor:(i) demonstrates no significant signs, or symptoms, or evidence of anemia, significant hypertension, placenta previa, malpositioned fetus or breech; (so no breech babies can be born here) (ii) is progressing normally; (iii) is without prolonged ruptured membranes; and (iv) is not in premature labor. (so it is up to the midwives I am guessing as to when a labor is no longer progressing normally or what is considered prolonged rupture of membranes)
  13.  is not postmature.( again- is this after 42 weeks?)

290-5-41-.07 Transfer and Transport Capability.

So, they must have an agreement with a hospital and lab:   Each birth center shall have a written agreement with a hospital(s) which is licensed to provide obstetrical services, for emergency care. Each physician practicing in the birth center shall have admitting privileges at the back-up hospital.   Each birth center shall have a written agreement with the emergency back-up hospital for acceptance and examination of laboratory specimens to expedite treatment, prior to formal admission procedures.

And they cannot be more than 30 minutes away from that hospital:   The center shall have the capability to transfer and transport the adult and/or newborn patients to the contract hospital within thirty (30) minutes of initiation of transfer procedure to the arrival on the obstetric/newborn service of the hospital. Documentation of each transfer shall be maintained by the center to substantiate to the Department that it has met this requirement.

And they will be contracted with a local ambulance service:   The center shall have a written contract with a licensed ambulance service which will assure timely response.

290-5-41-.06 Organization and Administration

Here’s that administrator’s role again:   The center shall be at all times under the personal and daily supervision and control of the administrator (or a designated representative) whose authority, duties and responsibilities shall be defined in writing. This information shall be available to the Department on request.

OPEN 24/7:  The center shall be available for occupancy 24 hours per day, with professional staff on call at all times.

Low risk women of any diversity will be welcomed:   Criteria for admission to the center shall be clearly identified in the center’s policies. The admission policy shall be submitted with the application for licensure. At a minimum, admission criteria shall include a provision that only low-risk patients will be admitted and that there will be no discrimination according to race.

You must have had prenatal care based on their policies:   Admissions to the center shall be restricted to low-risk patients who have received antepartum care in accordance with the facility’s policies. The center’s policies and procedures regarding management of complications shall be explained by a staff physician or certified nurse midwife.

You must only stay 24 hours:    The mother and newborn shall be discharged within twenty-four (24) hours after delivery, in a condition which will not endanger the well-being of either the mother or newborn, or shall be transferred to a licensed hospital. The mother and newborn will be discharged in the care of another responsible adult who will assist in their transport from the birth center.

The medical director must be an MD or DO- got to be a doctor!:   The center shall have a medical director who is a physician, designated by the governing body, who shall be responsible for the direction and coordination of all professional aspects of the center’s program.

290 5-41-.08 Professional Services.

You care will be a midwife, doctor and other professional staff member: All intrapartal services shall be under the direct supervision of a physician or a certified nurse midwife. At least one other member of the professional staff shall also be present at each delivery.

So the PKU, erythromycin, etc will be offered there and these policies will have a pediatrician involved: The center shall have written policies and procedures to ensure (a) metabolic screening of all newborns within one week of age, (b) assessment of newborn status, including Apgar score at one and five minutes, (c) prevention of eye infection, (d) umbilical cord care, and (e) periodic observation and assessment after birth until the infant’s condition is stable. These policies shall be developed in consultation with a pediatrician.

Rhogam will be available: Policies, procedures and facilities shall be provided for proper collection, storage and laboratory testing of cord blood for necessary studies on Rh Negative and O Positive mothers and a supply of Rhogam or other appropriate treatment material shall be readily available for use when needed.

A doctor will examine your baby before you go home: Prior to discharge, each newborn shall be examined by a physician.

290-5-41-.14 Anesthesia.

If you decide you need an epidural then you are transported to a hospital: General or regional anesthesia shall not be utilized in a birth center. Local or pudendal anesthesia is permitted.

 

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Have you ever been to a restaurant and had a great meal only to become sick a few hours later? Did you wonder if it was the food you had eaten? What if it was the flu and not the food at all? Would you return to the restaurant again? Would you wonder if it was really the food after all? Would you get queasy as you entered the restaurant?

I met a young mother of two, pregnant with her third this weekend that discussed her last birth with me. She is considering a different home birth midwife this time. I inquired as to why. Her husband really wants her to, feeling the midwife lives too far away. I asked for more details. Seems her second labor was so different in the lack of intensity from her first that she mistook active labor for really being early labor with her second. She had called the midwife, but had not even taken the time to time contractions yet- feeling it very early in the labor. But when intensity came over her, a call to the midwife was only 30 minutes prior to the birth. The midwife did not make it in time for the actual birth, but arrived a bit later. I did not ask if she was happy with her birth. But it seemed the father had not been happy about the unassisted birth. This time she wants a doula. I suppose she thinks a doula may know when to call the midwife sooner. She also said she would feel better about having the doula come sooner than she would have the midwife come. Although, I am unsure why. But as I pondered this more I thought, the midwife did nothing wrong. Yet the father assigns the negative memory of this birth to this midwife.

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We had a mom recently have her water break prematurely and after several weeks of hospitalization, Colleen was her labor doula. This is what she shared:

Colleen was a huge support to me during my labor. She helped my to cope with the contractions and offered just the right support for me at the right time. She was so calming and reassuring. She helped my believe that I could get through my labor, even when I doubted myself and I wanted to give up.  I really believe that all women should labor with a doula. The nurses and my midwife were in and out during labor, and Colleen was the constant presence I needed to get through my labor. I really and truly feel that I would not have been able to do it without her. She will always have a special place in my heart being apart of my birth story.

We are delighted that Colleen is a part of Labor of Love offering both labor and postpartum doula services.

 

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Labor and birth is a balancing act. Moms sit down with their doulas and share what their birth ideals are but often times what is shared is what she thinks her birth ideals are supposed to be. She may be thinking she wants one type of birth, but internally she is not sure she is committed to that ideal. There are a lot of factors that enter into their birth experience. What kind of birth does her partner want for her? What kind of birth does her family want for her?  She may be committed to her  birth ideals but as her labor and birth unfold parts of the jenga puzzle are pulled out and all of a sudden emotionally she is spent and she can not hold onto the ideals she thought she was committed to at first. Perhaps her water breaks and her labor does not begin on its own. The augmentation to her labor shakes her to her core and she no longer is able to see herself managing without pain medication. Perhaps she thought she would begin labor rested but instead it began after a long day of work and beginning labor fatigued is too much for her to be able to stay the course originally planned. Perhaps her water releases only to reveal thick meconium and the plan to labor in the tub are no longer an option. Maybe in her wildest dreams she labors for a full day but then when 24 hours of labor pass and she still has more to go, she can not move past it being longer than she had ever imagined. Maybe she thought she had her friends and family on board with the emotional support she felt she needed, only to have phone call or text messages asking why she has not already had that cesarean that seems to be inevitable anyway. There is a wall she can not climb over. Continue reading »

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