We hear it all the time… “Haven’t you had that baby yet?”  ”When is that doctor gonna induce you? You look miserable!” “I am waiting for my grandbaby- when is he coming?”

Friends and family are excited and anxious and are only sharing this when they make these comments. But every time the phone rings it is a reminder that you are still pregnant! You are trying to not be anxious. You are trying to be patient and trust your body. These phone calls are not helping!

May I make a few suggestions? When you first get your estimated due date- don’t tell folks the exact date. Give them a due month. “I am due sometime in June.” That helps folks- and you not be so dedicated to the actual day. Only 4% of babies actually come on that estimated due date. There is an assumption that all women have 28 day cycles and ovulate on day 14… but guess what- many don’t! It is assumed you conceived on the day you had sex….but guess what- sperm can hang out- especially the girl ones- for days before you become pregnant. And some women are slow cookers and some are fast. Who knows what you are?

If you have already given folks that date, then my I suggest this? Put a recording on your phone message. “Hey this is Mindy, we have not had our baby girl yet. When we do, we will put the stats on this message! For now, we are resting and preparing for her arrival. If you really need to leave a message please do so after the tone. I may or may not return it depending on how urgent you need a reply. Thanks for understanding.” And then quit answering the phone from all the well wishers who don’t seem to understand they are adding to your stress!